The fear of being judged that can shrink a life — and how treatment gradually widens it back out again.
More than shyness
Social anxiety disorder is an intense, lasting fear of being watched and judged by others. It's more than shyness. It can make everyday things, like meeting new people, speaking up at work or school, or eating in front of others, feel overwhelming.
It often begins in childhood or the teen years. It's common, and it's treatable.
How it can feel
In the body, it can bring blushing, sweating, trembling, a racing heart, an upset stomach, or a mind that goes blank.
In your thoughts, it can mean feeling very self-conscious, and worrying that others will judge you, or that you'll embarrass yourself. The worry can start days or weeks before an event.
And in what you do, it can look like avoiding eye contact, speaking very softly, or staying away from places where there are other people.
The avoidance trap
Avoiding a situation brings relief in the moment. But the fear never gets the chance to shrink, so next time can feel even harder, and life can slowly get smaller.
Getting a diagnosis
Your provider will ask which situations are hard, how long it's been going on, and how much it gets in the way. Questionnaires like the SPIN, which you may see under Assessments in your portal, are one part of the picture.
How treatment helps
Cognitive behavioral therapy is a well-studied treatment. It helps you notice and question anxious thoughts, and practice new ways of handling social situations.
Part of it is facing feared situations step by step, starting small, so the fear can fade and your world can widen again.
Medicine can help too. SSRIs and SNRIs are often used, and they usually take several weeks to help. Many people do best with therapy and medicine together.
When to reach out
If the fear of being judged is shrinking your life, talk with your care team. If a call feels hard, a message in your portal is a fine place to start.
If you ever have thoughts of harming yourself, call or text 988, any time, day or night. This video is general education, not medical advice. Your provider can help you find the right plan for you.
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This video is general education, not medical advice — your care is tailored to you. Talk with your Northwest Psychiatry care team about anything specific, and before making any change. Browse more in the learning library. If you're in crisis, don't wait — call or text 988, or call 911.
